Of all the free time I had with me in these years that flew by, who would have thunk that my 4th trimester with a squishy adorable tiny little human in my arms and my magical & extremely thoughtful first born wanting to be by my side making sure I’m doing ok, is when I would begin blogging! Better late than never is said for a reason for procrastinators like me 😜.
I wonder if it’s the sweet little face, the sleep deprived nights or the over drive of Oxytocin that’s helping me. Whatever it is, I’m Thankful for it. And I’m beyond Grateful for the way my body is healing giving me the mental space to focus on something nice, relaxing and always have been wanting to do. Taking a quick peek at the last 3 trimesters, was this pregnancy and child birth everything I expected ? Well, yes for the most part. But hey, it happened the way it was meant. Aren’t things around us always happening that way and as my husband who would quote Sam Harris here “we don’t really have the freewill” 😮. What ?!? Anyways, moving on. .
With all the love surrounding me, there’s one tiny little thing that seems to bother me.. why is it all or mostly about the baby once it’s out in the world ? Don’t get me wrong, it’s new here, it’s teeny tiny and as parents and family we are supposed to nurture it, love it, feed it, change it all those blah blah blah’s. But how come the mother who took the driver’s seat for the 10 months thus far watching every step she walked so as to not trip, paid attention to what she ate, how she slept suddenly become the person of lesser importance ? I’m not complaining, most definitely not, I’m just trying to make sense of how things work. Just thinking out loud. The mother now as if she hasn’t done enough multi-tasking already, should help her body recover, eat cautiously for the baby’s sake if she’s feeding (at least this is true in Indian families), try to understand the crying tones based on the differing decibels of someone she just met and help calm down the little one, do the non-trivial things around the house (btw, this is completely unnecessary - more on this under a different topic), and most importantly spend enough emotional time with the other child because that’s whose world which has shifted a whole lot and needs the mother’s attention the most, going from living life as an only child who funneled in all of mommy-daddy’s love and now is asked to share it 😔💗 !
Oh you 4th trimester . . why didn’t anyone give me a heads-up about you ?!
But on the positive side (believe me, there’s always one !!), now that I have made the list, it doesn’t sound so complicated to tackle them all, does it 😉 ?
